Don’t feel bad if you have never heard of the term “parental alienation.” A Pennsylvania man is working to change that.
Daniel Holmes recently got his hometown of Hatboro to recognize an official Parental Alienation Awareness Day. The term refers to activities by one member of a couple going through divorce that are meant to make the other look bad in the eyes of the pair’s children. It’s a concept that is slowly gaining ground in some fields of study.
Holmes said he first encountered the idea of parental alienation in counseling, which he entered after his daughter turned against him following his difficult divorce from her mother. He has now started a Pennsylvania chapter of the Parental Alienation Awareness Organization.
While divorce has a reputation for being a hurtful, difficult process, this doesn’t always have to be the case. If the members of a couple have decided it would be best for them and for their family if they separated, it is more than possible for them to do so in a respectful, fair way that causes as little disruption as possible.
Resources are available to help each member of a divorcing couple decide what he or she needs in terms of divided assets, child custody and spousal support, if any. Once each person has reached this determination, the two can see where their concepts match and can address how to solve their differences. A mutually polite, fair separation process is likely to reduce animosity and smooth over the hurt feelings you so often hear about.
Source: Hatboro-HorshamPatch.com, “Parents Seek Awareness of ‘Pandemic’ Divorce Behavior,” Jen Colletta, 28 May 2011.